I have to remind myself of this every.single.day. And, I bet I’m not alone.
It’s so easy to get focused on what you want to accomplish in life. You know; the big “thing” you’re going to do or that person you want to be. And, you want all that right now and you’re frustrated that it’s taking so long, right?
Yep. This is what I battle every day. My ole ego tries to fill my brain space with thoughts like:
- You’re too old
- Maybe you aren’t cut out for this
- Maybe it isn’t your calling
- You’re not good enough
- Just quit
But, here’s the truth. Those are just limiting thoughts and beliefs. They’re based in fear. That ole ego is just trying to hold me back. Keep me in my comfort zone.
But, I know that the magic happens when you get outside your comfort zone. When you live each day with passion and purpose. When you “stay in your lane” and stop comparing where you are in your journey to where others are in theirs. When you recognize and are grateful for what you have accomplished along the way.
So, if your ego is trying to hold you back and keep you in your comfort zone, I want you to do 4 things. And, if you have to do them every day like I do, then just do them until they become new habits. You’ll soon have your ego whipped into shape (at least on this topic).
1. Live in the present.
I’ve always had some plan in place to guide me in my personal and professional life. I thought they were serving me well. But, recently I’ve come to realize that if you only focus on those long-term plans and goals, you miss out on the magic that happens as you work toward those goals.
Am I going to stop planning? Nope.
Those plans are still important and I review them as part of my morning mindset routine. But now I break them down into daily activities I can do that will move me closer to those goals.
Every Sunday afternoon I make an appointment with myself. I get out my weekly calendar and I write down my office hours (including a quitting time) for each day, my appointments (personal and business), my scheduled training and my physical activity.
I refer to it every day and I take action. When I stick to this, I find I’m more focused and more productive.
I’ll admit it. A few years ago, I didn’t quite get why anyone would waste time doing this. I kept travel journals, but that was the extent of it.
But, during a major life transition a couple of years ago, I started keeping a journal. And, I look back through it to remind me of how far I’ve come, what I have to be grateful for and where some of that magic occurred.
If you don’t journal, I’d encourage you to give it a try. It truly does help you live in the moment.
3. Turn negative into positive.
Your thoughts are so very powerful. And, your mental health can impact your physical health and overall wellbeing.
If you continue to think negative thoughts, you will attract more of the same. It’s the basic premise in the Law of Attraction. Considered one of life’s biggest mysteries (it was to me), it’s basis is that everything (including your thoughts) is vibration or energy and vibrations of similar frequencies are attracted to each other. Since you have the ability to control your thoughts and therefore your vibration, you have the ability to control the conditions of your life.
So, stop asking the Universe for more of what you don’t want based on those limiting beliefs your ego keeps throwing at you. Start having positive thoughts and focusing on what you do want in life — your goals, for starters — and you will find a way to achieve them through the daily and weekly actions you write down every Sunday.
4. Let it go.
This is a big one for me. When things get out of control in my life — or I feel like things are out of control — I haven’t always handled it well. Some would say that’s an understatement (you know who you are). I’ve been known to have panic attacks, meltdowns or whatever you want to call the reactions.
But, the truth of the matter is that you are not in control. I know God has a plan for me and He’s not going to reveal it all at once — remember, it’s the journey! In one of my devotionals, I’m reminded to relax, trust Him enough to let things happen without striving to predict or control them and ask for guidance. It’s hard for a recovering control freak, but I practice it every day.
So, let go of control. But also, when things don’t go as planned, just let it go. Period.
I hope these 4 tips will help you stay in a positive mindset. If you’re looking for more mindset ideas, grab your copy of my FREE template that reveals the #1 secret to living each day by design without feeling overwhelmed. Just fill out the form below! Enjoy your journey!