Here we are…the end of 2022. How many of you are already thinking about your New Year’s Resolutions?
I used to, but now I take a different approach.
And, you want to know what? It works.
Statistics indicate only 64 percent last longer than the first month, and only 46 percent last longer than six months. That just sets people up for disappointment. And, that’s exactly how I used to feel.
What are some of the reasons for failure?
People set unrealistic goals. They don’t keep track of their progress, and therefore they focus on what they didn’t accomplish instead of what they did. That makes them lose interest and momentum.
It used to happen to me and when it did, I felt terrible. Stressed out. Disappointed. And, I’ll bet when it happened to you, you felt the same way.
So, here’s what worked for me once I ditched the idea of setting New Year resolution promises that just don’t stick and I started making a decision — a commitment — to myself.
As the renowned success mentor Darren Hardy says, “Commitment is doing the thing you said you were going to do long after the mood you said it in has left you.”
Here are 4 tips to help you make decisions and commitments to yourself to start the new year off right and to help you design and achieve all you desire in 2022.
- Focus on your intention rather than the outcome/results
The result, or outcome you want is your goal. You could even say it was your resolution in the past. But, staying focused on the end-result, the goal, can often be overwhelming. The reality is that it takes time to accomplish your goals, especially if they are what I call “stretch” goals.
But, if you’re like most people who focus on the end-game, you’ll quickly grow impatient. Your ego will kick in and try to tell you you’re not making any progress or worse, that you should give up because you’re never going to get there. Then all of a sudden you’re just another one of that 64 percent that ditches their resolutions by mid-February.
Instead, I challenge you to go ahead and set your goals — your results — but also think about how you intend to achieve them. Break your goals down into manageable “bites” and each one will be an intentional step you take on your way to your goal. Focus on these intentional steps and you’ll get results you intended.
And, don’t forget to celebrate along the way! Focusing on what you have accomplished will kick your old ego right to the curb where he or she belongs.
- Strive to create life-long habits
Weight loss is a great example. Millions of Americans are reported to be on a diet, spending billions of dollars on diet plans and supplements that promise to help you lose weight and keep it off. Yet according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, about 93 million adults in the United Sates and about 13.7 million children and adolescents are obese.
Medical professionals are now encouraging lifestyle changes that consist of adopting healthy overall habits that promote long-term weight control and health as opposed to diets that temporarily change eating habits to promote a certain outcome such as weight loss.
So, those commitments you’re making to yourself at the beginning of the year (whatever they are)? Turn them into new habits. Make them lifestyle changes. And, set them with good intentions. It won’t be easy, and it takes time. Creating a new habit typically takes 90 days and changing one takes even longer. But, I can assure you, it will be worth it.
- Make new habits part of your daily routine
Intentionally adding these new habits to your daily routine will help you overcome your natural resistance to doing different or difficult things.
For example, if you want to exercise first thing in the morning, put your workout clothes by your bed so they are easy to step into and hard to ignore. Want to eat less ice cream (or Cheetos in my case), make sure it stays where it belongs in the grocery store. Want to be more productive and intentional with the activities in your work day? Get yourself a planner, set your goals, create an action plan, plan your day, and stick to it.
Making new habits part of my daily routine has been a game-changer for me.
- End and start your year with intention
First, celebrate this year’s wins because that will drown out any feelings of regret. You see, the ole Ego wants you to dwell on the things that you didn’t get done. You know, those resolutions or promises to yourself that for some reason or another just didn’t happen (some legitimately so).
But, when you celebrate your wins—big or small—you’ll find you’ve moved farther toward your goal than you thought. In the end, those baby steps are very important and are a perfect way to shift your mindset from one of regrets or scarcity to one of abundance!
So, be sure to take inventory of the last year and spend time reflecting on what went well. By doing so, you can gain valuable insights that will help you open that new planner and map out your best year possible.
As you face your new year, one way to be intentional in your daily activities is to journal. I like to do that as part of my morning mindset routine. It helps me stay focused on my dreams and goals, gives me an opportunity to reflect on and celebrate the progress I’ve made and also reminds me to take the time to write down all the things I have to be grateful for in my life.
Your journal will not only help you stay focused on all you intend to accomplish in 2022, journaling will also show you the progress you’re making. So, when that old ego starts telling you it’s taking too long or it’s time to give up, you have the proof to say otherwise.
I hope these tips help you chase — and catch — your dreams in 2022. You owe it to yourself to give it a fresh start. I believe you can do it.
Finally, I wouldn’t be as intentional in my daily activities or in pursuing my dreams and goals without the emotional support of essential oils. Over the years I have experienced the benefit of these oils in dealing with stress and anxiety (who hasn’t had that these past couple of years), in opening up the creative side of my mind, and in helping me stay focused and feeling confident.
I have several free resources that may help you plan—and execute—your 2023 year with intention. Check them out in this link and on my website https://christinestallard.com/resources/. I wish you all the best for 2023 and look forward to hearing all about your journey to living by design.