That’s a question all of us ask ourselves after (or during) a major life transition.
Retirement, divorce, a career change, moving, having kids, kids leaving the “nest”–navigating life after a major transition can get messy. Really messy!
There may even be times you look in the mirror and don’t even recognize the person staring back at you.
That loss of identity is a lot more common than you think. Who you are today is often deeply rooted in the past, with your spouse, your children, your career, or even your community involvement. When a transition changes that, it can be confusing and lonely.
It feels like someone drove you out into the middle of nowhere, pushed you out of the car without a map, and said, “Good luck.”
Here are a few resources that can help you figure out your map…or at least the next steps you can take to help you get clarity you need to design your next chapter and the confidence you need to step gracefully into it.
Faced with the daunting task of finding myself after retirement as a corporate executive, I embarked on a journey of self-discovery to figure out who I was and what I wanted outside of my 30-year corporate identity.
In my new Amazon best-seller and #1 Hot New Release book, Your Next Chapter. Dream It. Design It. Live It., I share personal stories, lessons learned, and journal exercises to help you discover who you are without limitations, what you really want out of your next chapter in life, and how to get it!
Passion Planner Time Management
I get asked these questions all the time. “How do you stay so organized and what time management system do you use?”
For several years, I’ve used the Passion Planner. It’s laid out perfectly (in my opinion) so you can dream big (your vision), set and break down goals by month, add weekly and daily tasks, and spend time reflecting and adjusting at the end of every month.
Why do I believe time management is important?
As John C. Maxwell, American author says, “If your habits don’t line up with your dream, then you need to either change your habits or change your dream.” Effective time management helps you focus on your dreams and create habits that help you achieve and live them.
No matter how organized you are, you still only get 24 hours in a day. That doesn’t change. If you struggle to fit everything into your day, you may need to learn how to work smarter, not harder.
Planning and managing how you spend your 24 hours can make all the difference in the world in maintaining a healthy, stress-free balance between your work and personal life.
Sunday is my day to have a staff meeting with myself. The first thing I do is review my goals—both personal and professional—because I want to be sure the activities I have planned for the week support them. If they don’t, then they don’t get “priority status.”
Then I transfer the activities and appointments I’ve penciled in on my monthly calendar for the upcoming week to my weekly calendar, making sure to label them accordingly with colored pencils, like pink for personal activities, teal for personal development, and green for income-producing activities.
As I’m transferring from my monthly to weekly calendar, I think about specific tasks that might need to be done in preparation for the event and jot these tasks down on the weekly calendar as well.
Next, I take a good, hard look at my week. I block out a realistic amount of time for each activity and note the time I’ll shut things down for the day. I really enjoy my work, but since I work from home, I can get totally wrapped up in a project and forget all about the time and importance of maintaining a good balance between work and personal life.
So now I’m ready for my week. And it will be productive because I’ve already made sure my activities are aligned with my goals (both personal and professional) and my week is packed with activities that I’ve deemed “priority status.”
I go into more detail in Chapter 19 of my Amazon best-selling book, “Your Next Chapter. Dream It. Design It. Live It.”
Essential Oils for Emotional Support
A couple of years ago I lost my identity and myself. I thought I had life under control and was ready to coast into a new chapter called retirement. Boy was I wrong.
I had planned for it from a financial perspective, but hadn’t even thought about how the transition would affect me on mental, emotional, and physical levels. It was devastating.
I found that that loss of identity is far more common than you think because who you are today is often deeply rooted in the past (your spouse, your children, your career, or your community). And because of those deep roots, you can find yourself in a confusing and lonely place when things start to change. Regardless of where you are on your life’s journey.
Essential oils, as I discovered, play a powerful role in emotional healing and emotional support on your journey. They support your ability to heal your physical body and the hurt you have in your heart. They support you in releasing limiting beliefs and increasing spiritual awareness and connection.
They help calm your emotions so you can think clearly.
Emotions come in response to what we see, smell, hear, feel, taste, think, or have experienced and can affect our future thoughts and behaviors. If you’re in transition, everything likely feels out of control, you feel lost, you’re grieving something that doesn’t exist anymore, you’re afraid of the unknown, or you just feel anxious and stressed out.
The idea behind using aromatherapy for emotional benefit is that you can choose certain essential oils based on what you are feeling now and how you want to feel. You can use them to combat negative emotions, to release limiting beliefs held deep in your subconscious, and to tap into the creative side of your mind.
Each body is different, but there are some basic oils and blends you might consider using when you’re in a transition (or about to enter one). Find the right combination for the emotional support you need to help you gracefully and confidently design your path and take the first step in your journey.
I recommend doTerra’s Aroma Essentials collection or Home Essentials collection to get you started. Both collections have oils and blends for calming anxious feelings, sparking creativity, building confidence, and gaining clarity.
What you’ll get with either collection:
- Unboxing experience with me on Zoom
- Amazing oils and blends to provide emotional support in your transition
- Access to my Exclusive Customer Portal where we share educational information
- Access to my Private Facebook Group
Aroma Essentials Collection
Home Essentials Collection